Non-Verbal Signs of Depression and Suicidal Thoughts

People who are experiencing depression or suicidal thoughts often show non-verbal signs, sometimes subtle, sometimes more noticeable, especially if they’re struggling to ask for help directly. Here are some common non-verbal signs that someone may be depressed or suicidal and silently asking for help:

Behavioral Changes

• Withdrawal from friends, family, and activities they once enjoyed

• Increased isolation or spending excessive time alone

• Neglecting personal hygiene or appearance

• Changes in eating or sleeping patterns (sleeping too much or too little, loss of appetite or overeating)

• Giving away personal belongings, especially things they once valued

• Sudden calmness or cheerfulness after a period of depression (this can indicate they've decided to end their life)

• Increased risk-taking (reckless driving, substance use, etc.)

• Loss of interest in school, work, hobbies, or responsibilities

Emotional Expression

• Frequent crying or tearfulness without obvious cause

• Flat affect (lack of facial expression, monotone voice, blank stares)

• Avoiding eye contact or frequent downward gazes

• Body posture that’s slumped, closed-off, or withdrawn

• Fidgeting, pacing, or agitation that seems uncharacteristic

• Writing, drawing, or posting online about death, darkness, or hopelessness (even indirectly)

Reaching Out Without Words

• Showing up unannounced or lingering longer than usual after a gathering

• Making deep or serious eye contact, as if trying to communicate distress silently

• Seeking physical touch or closeness more than usual (e.g., long hugs)

• Sending vague or cryptic messages like “I’m tired,” “I can’t do this anymore,” or “You’d be better off without me”

• Asking questions like “Would you be sad if I weren’t around?” in a roundabout way

What to Do If You Notice These Signs:

• Gently reach out and ask how they’re doing. Be direct and compassionate.

• Ask directly if they’re thinking about suicide. It’s a myth that asking will make things worse.

• Encourage them to seek professional help or call/text 988.

• Stay with them if they’re in immediate danger or connect them to someone who can help or call 911 and take them to the emergence room.

Your awareness can save a life. Sometimes the loudest cries for help are the ones never spoken aloud.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please don’t wait, call or text the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Support is free, confidential, and available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.